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Golden Words of Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jilani RadiAllahanhu

  • Though I be in the west and my disciple in the East, if a world goes to attack him, I know. I will save him.
  • Look towards that person who looks towards you. Love that person that loves you, listen to that person that listens to you and give your hands in his hands that are prepared to grasp it.
  • A mans position in life is such that though he is mortal he is reborn with pleasure in the winds of afflictions. It is that very same life whose consequence is not death. It is that very same comfort which has no extreme anguish.
  • That person who has enmity against a well to do companion, he totally rejects the wisdom and foresight of the sustainers.
  • Many wealthy people because of greed are poor and needy, in reality the brave person is he who wrestles and defeats the devil of greed and thereafter becomes independent and without want of need from this material World.
  • The person who backbites and speaks ill of us are actually our success because they pay homage to us by writing their good deeds into our deed books.
  • Look carefully at the previous graves lying in ruin. How the sands of beautiful people are turning bad.
  • If you do not find the sweetness of doing a good deed then be aware that you have not done that deed.
  • Disrespect earns the displeasure of the creator and the creation.
  • To please the enemies of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala is beyond comprehension and wisdom.
  • O! Gifts do not imprison me so that I become unmindful to the benefactor.
  • O! Doers of good deeds giving birth to sincerity in your deeds can never be a wasted effort.
  • Among the creation, silence is not bravery but rather impatience.
  • The person who cannot educate his own soul, then how is he going to educate others.
  • The love of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala and the Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam is intertwined in poverty and starvation.
  • The love of the World generally blinded the eyes, those eyes which should have been used to identify the specialties of the Almighty Creator.
  • The person who becomes aware of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala then he becomes hospitable towards the creation.
  • Preach only in accordance to religion otherwise remaining dumb is better.
  • To adopt anonymity and unwholesomeness relative to it is peaceful.
  • As long as there remains on this earth one person in your heart whom you fear or have high expectations of, then until then your Faith is not complete.
  • Until you still possess arrogance and anger you cannot classify yourself amongst the learned.
  • That sustenance whose extent is expansive but no thanks is given for it and that means of livelihood which is difficult but no patience is shown for it become a source of revolt and mischief.
  • Always hold the best opinions about others and think ill of yourself.
  • O! ‘Alim do not soil your knowledge by sitting in the company of Worldly people.
  • Your speech will tell what is in your heart.
  • An oppressor destroys the World of the oppressed, and his own in the hereafter.
  • To start something good is your job and to see it completed is the work of your creator.
  • A wise person first question his heart thereafter speaks with his mouth.
  • To remain alone is protection and safety and to every sin there is a period of execution.
  • Except for the needs of your children and family do not leave the house unnecessarily.
  • Endeavor not to start a conversation and your speaking becomes necessary only to answer a question.
  • Keep your mouth closed from answering unnecessary questions so that you can remain safe from unnecessary talk.
  • That person who is never distressed, has no virtue.
  • Material people chase the World while the World chases the friends of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala .
  • This World is a World of exertion for a Mo’min while the hereafter is a World of relaxation.
  • Suspicion closes all the benefits to be accrued.
  • An understanding person finds no joy in anything, for it has accountability, for being lawful or a punishment for it being unlawful.
  • To make the soul receive the truth is its existence while making it receive failures, errors, falsehood and wrongdoings is its annihilation.
  • Those who belong to Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala carry out his commands and even their hearts are reinforced by it. You carry on committing sin then to you have no fear. This is obvious evidence of betrayal. Beware; safeguard yourself for you may be caught out unawares when your allotted time is up.
  • A disrespectful becomes the object of displeasure and wrath of both the creator and the creation.
  • Iman (Faith) is the root while deeds and actions are its branches. Therefore stay away from associating with your Iman and sin with your actions.
  • First there is ignorance, thereafter knowledge, then follows practice upon your knowledge, thereafter sincerity upon that action and finally comes understanding and wisdom in the heart.
  • If you do not have patience then poverty and sicknesses become a misfortune and if you adopt patience then it becomes nobility and graciousness.
  • To gain the happiness of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala is impossible if you cannot make a poor person happy. The treatment for afflictions upon oneself is to gain the happiness and pleasure of the poor.
  • Whosoever asks of the creation is blind to the doors of the creator.
  • You are busy in fulfilling the desires and wishes of the soul (nafs) while the nafs is busy in destroying you.
  • That person is close to Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala who is kind and affectionate towards the creation.
  • Rejection (kufr) of the divine blessings and providence is contrary to achieving closeness to the truth.
  • Hundreds of thousands of people just like you have been fattened and then swallowed by this World.
  • Do not be fooled by your youthful appearance for very soon it would be taken away from you.
  • Poverty saves one from sin and wealth is a trap for sins regard poverty as your protector.
  • To make a poor person happy makes one the inheritor of and undisclosed amount of reward.
  • What are you going to do by taking the bounties? Take the merciful and compassionate one. Every pious person is from the progeny and following of Muhammad SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam.
  • He whose fate is ultimately death then what is the need for happiness.
  • People do not regard you with respect because you are proud and vain but rather they look up to you when you are polite and hospitable.
  • Keep your hearts open only for Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala and to busy yourself in earning a means of livelihood for your family is also following the commands.
  • To remember death is the best treatment for all ailments.
  • Worship and prayers breaks unwanted habits and should not be but a habit only.
  • The person who wishes to tame his soul should bridle it with silence and good etiquettes.
  • Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala asks a loan of his servants and the messengers of this are the beggars.
  • For the whole period I spent in the companionship of my sheikh (spiritual guide) I have never seen the whiteness of his teeth.
  • Whenever it is possible reform each morsel for the foundations of good deeds lies in it.
  • The creation are like children in relation to the saints of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala .
  • It is a lie if one says by sitting in the company of those women with whom relationships are lawful and young boys; one has absolutely no inclination towards them. Islamic principles (Shari‘ah) is neither definitely not in agreement nor does a sound mind allow for such conformities and this is total rejection of Shariat for Shari‘ah has never given anyone exemption from this.
  • When the angels do not enter a house in which there are images pictures then how do you expect Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala to enter your heart which is full of thousands of statues and idols. Anything else besides Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala presence in the heart is images and idols.
  • A visit to the pious person communicates the condition of the person.
  • The key to the closeness to the truth is in private consultations and journeys.
  • Do not become subservient to the gifts in such a manner that you forget the bestowal of the gifts.
  • The provisions and luggage undoubtedly is modesty, such that, because of it, the doors of sovereignty and reality seem closed.
  • It is not becoming of a mo’min to sleep until he has kept his will and testimony ready.
  • The obedience of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala is by asking and not by desiring.
  • You are busy in building mansions and palaces for others to stay in while; its accountability rests entirely on you.
  • O! Children of Adam Alaihis Salaam be modest towards Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala as you would be modest towards your religious neighbor.
  • When a person commits a sin, he closes the doors, draws the veils and hides from the creation and goes against the commands of the creator in private, and then the creator says, O! Son of Adam Alaihis Salaam you have regarded me the least amongst those that can see you because you found it necessary to hide yourself from the creation yet you have not shown modesty and shame even equivalent to that of the creation towards me.
  • It is not beneficial to be a master at speech when you are immature at heart.
  • Be obedient with a direction; don’t become obedient to the masses.
  • Do not become a polytheist by regarding your wealth as absolute and total power of assistance.
  • O! You who make fun of others very soon you will know the answer to your own fate.
  • O! Munafiqa (Hypocrites) very soon you will see the punishment of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala descending upon you in this World and the hereafter. The times are pregnant and very soon you will see what it gives birth to.
  • Your actions are proof of your belief and your exterior appearance is a sign of your interior condition.
  • To turn your face towards the creation is to turn your back towards Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala .
  • Empty desires are the jungle of stupidity and folly and only the foolish hustle and bustle aimlessly within it.
  • Make silence your habit, anonymity you clothing, escape from the creation your aim and if it is possible then dig the hole and sit down in it. This habit should stay with you until such time that you Iman (Faith) has reached an age of maturity and is unquestionable.
  • Those that wish the approval of the creation should show patience of the oppression of the created.
  • Do not turn away from the creator because of some misfortune, because he may be testing you with it.
  • Moderation is half of one’s sustenance (livelihood) and good manners is half of religion (Deen).
  • O Doers of good deeds! Adopt sincerity otherwise it is wasted effort.
  • If you are afraid of your destination then whichever way or wherever you look at, you will find that you are surrounded by ferocious beasts.
  • Good deeds are done in privacy and not in public except that which is Fard (compulsory) which is performed in exposure.
  • Everything that you rely on, every person you afraid of or you keep that trust in, becomes your God.
  • 1. Special testimony 2. Making the commands of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala compulsory upon yourself 3. Not to fear or trust anyone 4. To make all your needs aware only to Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala and put your Faith in him, To ask of him alone and never put your trust in anyone except Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala .
  • A seeker is not truthful until he places the needs of sustenance of his companions over and above the sustenance of his soul and desires.
  • Remain honourable among the people, for by revealing your poverty you will fall in status in their eyes.
  • Meet the wealthy and rich with dignity ad prevalence and the poor with humility and humbleness.
  • Your keeping the company of careless and negligent people is a sigh of your carelessness and negligence.
  • To love of the creations is in its well wishing.
  • To give is better than to receive.
  • That person who is generous with the creation then he is close to Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala .
  • A residence that is fit to be called a house, clothes that cover the body, a stomach full of sustenance and a wife is not regarded as Worldly but to face towards the Worldly while showing your back to your creator is Worldly.
  • Even if you have said Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala aloud, then even then you would be interrogated whether it was said in sincerity or in show.
  • When the remembrance of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala finds a place in the heart then for servant to remember Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala continuously becomes continuous and everlasting even though the lips are closed.
  • Carry out the rights that the ruler has upon you and do not question that which is obligatory upon you.
  • There is greater dignity in the remembrance of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala than in death; at the time of cutting someone short by razing them to the ground and thereafter realising it was fruitless to sow the seeds of hate.
  • Hide your troubles and you will receive closeness to Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala .
  • A mo’min leaves his family in the care of the creator while a munaafiq leaves his family in the care of his dirham and dinaars (wealth).
  • There are 3 types of creation 1. Angels 2. The Devil 3. Man. The Angels are entirely good and the devil is entirely bad. Man is a mixture of good and bad. Whoever is overcome with good he can be likened to an Angel and whoever is overcome with evil he can be likened to the devil.
  • Do not laugh with those that are laughing but cry with those that are crying.
  • If your thoughts are with the creator then you are subservient to the creator. If your thoughts are with the creation then you are subservient to the creation.
  • Give priority to the hereafter over the World and you will benefit in both, but priority is given to the World over the hereafter then you would suffer losses in both.
  • Do not spend even one night in the hate and malice of anybody.
  • The sign of your sincerity is that you praise the creation and you do not turn your attention towards derogatory remarks nor do you show greed and avarice towards their wealth but you give your lord his right and your deeds are for your benefactor and not for the gifts, for the king and not for the kingdom and for the truth and not for falsehood.
  • As long as the doors of good health are open to you then regard it as a blessing for very soon it will be closed upon you. So as long as you have the strength and power to do good deeds regard it as a blessing.
  • It is wrong to claim respect towards your creator as long as you have no respect whatsoever for his creation.
  • When an ‘Alim is not an ascetic then, he is a punishment upon those that follow him.
  • A Mu’min, as he grows older Faith becomes stronger.
  • To search for good fortune is an unnecessary trouble and to search for that which is not your destiny is to anger Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala and disgraceful.
  • You do not concern yourself in making the creator angry by pleasing the creation. In exchange for Worldly mansions and building you destroy your hereafter. Very soon you will be caught. He will definitely catch you whose imprisonment is very, very fearful.
  • What, you do not become ashamed ordering him to change your fate? Are your more commanding, more just and merciful than him? You and the entire creation are his servants. It becomes compulsory upon you to adopt, peace, solitude and silence.
  • Saying without deeds and deeds without sincerity are not worthy of acceptance.
  • A person once came to the Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam and said that he loves him (SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam) very much. The Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam said to him “lay down a cloth or spread a cloth for Poverty.” Another person said that he loves Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala , The Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam said “spread a cloth for misfortune, for the love of Allah SubHanuhu wa Ta’ala and the Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam is intertwined with poverty and misfortunes.”
  • You are busy accumulating that which you would not be able to eat. You desire for that which you cannot attain. Construct those buildings in which you will not stay. All this makes you blind to the status of your creator.
  • Be happy in the changes and choices that the creator made for you. If you stay in this manner with him then he will definitely change your fears and horrors.
  • Adopt patience for this World is an assembly of troubles and calamities.
  • When somebody approaches carrying tales or gossiping or informing you about what another has said to him about you then admonish him and tell him that he is worst than that person that was gossiping about you for that person spoke behind your back while he is telling it straight to your face. That person has not made you listen yet he made you listen to it.
  • What an unfortunate person is he who had not been given the habit of being merciful in his heart for all living things?
  • Your biggest enemies are those that are your biggest supporters.
  • The sum total of all the essence of good is to seek knowledge, practice upon it and teaching it to somebody.

“Islamic Standards Of Marriage”

Islam has declared piety and good character as the standard for matrimony.  There is a Hadith in both Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim:

Translation of Hadith: Women are married for 4 things: First, their wealth.  Second, their family.  Third, their beauty.  Fourth, for their piety.  So, you select the pious one, otherwise you will be deprived of blessings.

The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) declared piety as the standard, as neither wealth is permanent nor beauty.  Beauty is a fleeting shadow and wealth can be lost in a moment.  In reality, piety and character is the only permanent wealth, which benefits and provides relief and succor in this world and the hereafter.  If the parents are religious, then they will raise their children also in the same manner and their entire lives become blessed.

The Hadith does not mean that parentage, wealth and beauty should not be considered and that matches with these should be rejected, but that the final deciding standard should be piety and character.  It is fine if along with piety, the girl is of a high, wealthy family and beautiful as well.

The primary reason for the deterioration in married life at present is that we have ignored piety and taken wealth and mere physical beauty as the standards, due to which many girls are facing many problems.  We should try to solve these problems so that life becomes blissful and the problems of the Ummah are solved.

There is a Hadith in Sunan Ibn Majah: The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: For a Momin, the best thing after Taqwa (piety) from which a man draws benefit is a pious wife.  When he orders her, she obeys him, when he sees her, she makes him happy, when he gives her an oath (with an order), she fulfills it and when he goes away (for some work, journey, etc.), she desires good for him through her person and his wealth.

There are strict warnings about those who take only physical beauty, parentage, and wealth as the standard for marriage.  There is a Hadith in Mojam Tabarani that the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: Whoever marries a women for her status, Allah Ta’ala increases his humiliation and debasement and whoever marries a lady for her wealth, Allah Ta’ala increases his poverty and whoever marries a lady for her parentage (ignoring her piety and character), then Allah Ta’ala increases his shame and disgrace and whoever marries a lady only to guard his eyes from doing wrong and protect his chastity and treat her relatives, made from this association, nicely, then Allah Ta’ala grants Barakaah (blessings) in the woman for the man and grants Barakaah in the man for the lady.

There is a Hadith in Sahih Muslim that, this world is a place to draw benefit from and the best thing from which benefit can be drawn is a pious woman.

The way the standard for selecting a bride is piety and good character, in the same way, the standard for selecting a bridegroom is also piety and good character.  There is a Hadith in Jame’ Tirmidhi:

When such a person sends a proposal to you whose piety and character is well liked by you, then accept it otherwise there will be corruption on the land and there will be great disturbances.

Because of these commandments, the Sahabah would not feel any hesitation or embarrassment in marrying off their girls even to pious Abyssinian slaves and Allah Ta’ala has granted Barakaah in their lineage as well.

The result of not making piety and character the standard for marriage is that both boys and girls are simply waiting for marriage.  For girls, dowry is an issue and for boys, the expenses of Valima remain an issue, the gateways of immorality have been opened wide and indecency is rampant, which invites new diseases.  There is a Hadith in Sunan Ibn Majah:

Translation of Hadith: The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: When indecency and immorality happens openly in a nation, then plague and other new diseases will come, about which the earlier had not even heard of.

“Women’s Rights and Duties and Liberation through Islam”


A women in Islam enjoy many rights and duties. History clearly shows that the revelation of the divine message to Prophet Muhammad ( (sal-lal-lahu alai hi wa sallam) in the seventh century led to the liberation of women from various types of oppression that was prevalent in many societies of the world. The Quran and the Sunnah (traditions and practices) of Prophet Muhammad (sal-lal-lahu alai hi wa sallam) are the primary sources from where every Muslim woman derives her rights and duties. The following sheds light into some of those rights and duties.


Equal Human Rights

Fourteen centuries ago, Islam made women equally accountable to Allah in glorifying and worshiping Him – setting no limits on her moral progress.  Since men and women both came from the same essence, they are equal in their humanity and in earning of rewards for their good deeds.  Islam establishes the basis of equality among both genders. In the Quran, in the first verse of the chapter entitled “Women”, Allah says:

Islam on Women’s Rights and Duties and Liberation through Islam

“O mankind!  Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from them both He created many men and women; and fear Allah through whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you.” (Quran 4:1)

The Quran also says:

“That He may admit the believing men and the believing women to Gardens under which rivers flow (i.e. Paradise), to abide therein forever, and He may expiate from them their sins; and that is with Allah a supreme success.” Quran (48:5)

The Quran also states:

“And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allah of His Bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything.” (Quran 4:32)

So, we see from the above Quranic verses that both men and women are mentioned on equal footing in terms of being rewarded for their good deeds.

Civil Rights

In Islam, a woman enjoys basic freedom of choice and expression based on recognition of her individual personality. For example, women have been given the right to accept or deny marriage proposals. She is also to keep her and her father’s name after marriage. Islam also encourages women to express their opinions and ideas. History shows that women used to pose questions directly to Prophet Muhammad ( (sal-lal-lahu alai hi wa sallam) and offer their opinions concerning religion, economics and social matters. We find evidence of this in many traditions of the Prophet ( (sal-lal-lahu alai hi wa sallam).

Importance of Women Education in Islam

The Prophet said:

“Seeking knowledge is mandatory for every Muslim (Male and Female).” (At-Tirmidhi)

This includes knowledge of the Quran and the Hadeeth as well as other types of worldly knowledge that can bring good to people and societies at large. Both men and women must promote morality and goodness and condemn evil in all walks of life. Muslim women, therefore, must acquire the appropriate education to perform this duty in accordance with their natural talents and interests.

Islam recognizes and fosters the natural differences between men and women despite their equality.  Due to their physical makeup, some types of work are more suitable for men than women.  This in no way diminishes the efforts of anyone.  Allah will reward both sexes equally for the value of their work, though, it may not necessarily be the same activity. So, while bearing, raising and teaching of children, and providing support to her husband and maintenance of a home are among the foremost duties of a mother and a wife, and very highly regarded role for a woman in Islam, if she has the skills to work outside the home for the good of the community, she may do so, as long as her family obligations are not neglected.

Concerning motherhood, the Prophet said:

“Heaven lies under her feet.” (An-Nasai)

We see from this hadith the high status and respect that Islam gave to a woman. Many studies show that the first and greatest influence on a person comes from the sense of security, affection, and training received from the mother. It is vital, therefore, that mothers become educated to impart appropriate morals in their children who in turn would influence the future of healthy societies.

Political Rights

A right given to Muslim women was the right to voice her opinion on socio-political issues.  On any public matter, a Muslim woman may voice her opinion and participate in politics. An example from history is Abdurrahman Ibn Awf who consulted many women before he recommended Uthman Ibn Affan to be the Caliph and leader of the Muslims.

Economic Rights of Women in Islam

.A Muslim woman has the privilege to earn money, the right to own property, to enter into legal contracts and to manage all of her assets in any way she pleases.  She can run her own business and no one can claim her earnings, including her husband

Islam has also provided a woman the right to inherit from her relatives.  The Quran states:

“There is a share for men and a share for women from what is left by parents and those nearest related, whether the property be small or large – a legal share.” (Quran 4:7)

Rights of a Woman as a Wife

Islam has attached a lot of importance to marriage. A marriage provides the bedrock for ones emotional well being. Divine guidance in the Quran and Hadith has clearly laid out a system of laws to support harmonious interaction between the sexes. Many verses in the Quran stress the need for husbands and wives to be affectionate with each other and to exercise patience in challenging times.  The Quran states:

“And among His signs is this that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and he has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” (Quran 30:21)

To foster the love and security that comes with marriage, Muslim wives have various rights.  The first of the wife’s rights is to receive mahr, a gift from the husband, which is part of the marriage contract and required for the legality of the marriage. This is unlike un-Islamic practices in certain parts of the world where women are forced to pay dowry to the husband to enter in marriage contracts. Unfortunately, many Muslims also engage in such illegal practices.

The second right of a wife has to do with maintenance.  Despite any wealth she may have, her husband is obligated to provide her with food, shelter and clothing.  He is not forced, however, to spend beyond his capability and his wife is not entitled to make unreasonable demands.

The Quran states:

“Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him. Allah will grant after hardship, ease.” (Quran 65:7)

Islam is clear in its teachings that God created men and women to be different, with unique roles, functions and skills.  As in society, where there is a division of labor, so too in a family, where each member has different responsibilities.  Generally, Islam upholds that women are entrusted with the nurturing role, and men, with the guardian role.  Therefore, women are given the right of financial support.

The Quran states:

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means…” (Quran 4:34)

This guardianship and greater financial responsibility given to men requires that they provide women with not only monetary support but also physical protection and kind respectful treatment.

The Prophet said: “The most perfect believers are the best in conduct.  And the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.”

Duties of a Wife

With rights also come responsibilities.  Therefore, wives have certain obligations to their husbands. For instance, a wife is prohibited to talk foul about their husbands and are obligated to keep her husband’s secrets and protect their marital privacy. A husband, too, is expected to guard her honor.

A wife must also guard her husband’s property.  She must safeguard his home and possessions, to the best of her ability, from theft or damage.  She should manage the household affairs wisely so as to prevent loss or waste.  She should not allow anyone to enter the house whom her husband dislikes nor incur any expenses of which her husband disapproves.

A Muslim woman must cooperate and coordinate with her husband.  There cannot, however, be cooperation with a man who is disobedient to Allah and His teachings.  In such cases, religious advice should be sought as fulfilling requests that are against Allah’s teachings is not allowed.  The Quran states:

“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed in a plain error.” (Quran 33:36)

Islam defined the duties and responsibilities of women 1400 years ago and got them out of oppression. Rather than showcasing them as sex symbols, Islam laid down rules to protect their honor and gave them a key role in the upbringing of families along with their husbands that in turn contributes to the foundation of healthy societies.



I heard that al-Albânî permits women to visit the graveyard? Is this true? How does he explain the hadith that reads: “Allah’s Messenger cursed the women who visit graves?”

Answered by:-

The Fatwa Department Research Committee – chaired by Sheikh `Abd al-Wahhâb al-Turayrî

Al-Albânî is of the opinion that women may visit the graves, and that is preferred for them to do so, but that they should not do so excessively.

“Evidence that women are encouraged to visit the graveyard”

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He supported his opinion that women are encouraged – just like men – to visit the graves with the following evidence:

  1. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “I had prohibited you from visiting the graves, but now I encourage you to visit them.” [Sahîh Muslim (977)]

In another narration it reads: “I had prohibited you from visiting the graves, but now I encourage you to visit them, because they are a reminder of the Hereafter.” [Sunan Abî Dâwûd (3235) and Musnad Ahmad (23005)]

In Sunan al-Nasâ’î, it reads: “Indeed, I had prohibited you from three things: from visiting the graves, but now I encourage you to visit them, and may your visiting them increase you in goodness…” [Sunan al-Nasâ’î (4429 and 5653)]

“This encouragement includes women, because when the Prophet (peace be upon him) had been prohibiting his followers from visiting the graves, the prohibition had been meant equally for men and for women. Therefore, when he lifted the prohibition, he did so for both men and women. “

  1. Women are equal with men with respect to the purpose for visiting the graves: which is to be reminded of the Hereafter and to soften the hearts.
  2. The Prophet (peace be upon him) permitted women to visit the graves.

`Abd Allah b. Abî Mulaykah relates: `Aishah came one day from the graveyard, so I said: “O Mother of Believers, from where have you come?”

She said: “From the grave of `Abd al-Rahmân b. Abî Bakr.” I said: “Did not the Prophet (peace be upon him) forbid visiting the graves?” She said: “Yes, then he commanded us to visit them.” [Mustadrak al- Hâkim (1/376), Sunan al-Bayhaqî (4/78) and Tamhîd Ibn `Abd al-Barr (3/233)]

In another narration, it reads at the end: “Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) permitted visiting the graves.” [Sunan Ibn Mâjah (1570)]

Al-Albânî comments: “Al-Hâkim does not talk about it and Imam al-Dhahabî says: ‘It is an authentic hadith.’ Al-Busayrî says: ‘Its line of transmission is authentic and its men are trustworthy.’ The ruling on this hadith is as they have stated.”

  1. The Prophet (peace be upon him) saw a woman crying at a grave so he told her: ‘Fear Allah and be patient.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (1252)] He did not forbid her from staying at the grave.

“Evidence that women are not to make frequent visits to the graveyard”

The proof that they should not be frequent visitors comes in the following hadiths:

  1. Abû Hurayrah relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) cursed the women who are frequent visitors of the graves.” [Sunan al-Tirmidhî (1056) and Sunan Ibn Mâjah (1576)] This hadîth is at least good (hasan), and it is supported by other narrations to the level of being authentic (sahîh).
  2. Hassân b. Thâbit relates: “Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) cursed the women who are frequent visitors of the graves. [Sunan Ibn Mâjah (1574)] Al-Albânî declares this hadîth to be acceptable (maqbûl) and sufficient for strengthening the hadîth of Abû Hurayrah to the level where it is authentic (sahîh).

There is a hadith related by Ibn `Abbâs, which reads in certain narrations: “Allah’s Messenger cursed the women who visit graves.” [Sunan al-Tirmidhî (320), Sunan Abî Dâwûd (3236), Sunan al-Nasâ’î (2034), and Sunan Ibn Mâjah (1575)]

“The word here is zâ’irât (women who visit) instead of zawwârât (women who are frequent visitors).”

However, this hadith is weak because one of its narrators, Abû Sâlih, is weak.

Also, even some narrations of this hadith mention “frequent visitors” instead of “women who visit”.

On this basis, al-Albânî concludes: “It therefore becomes clear regarding this hadith that the properly preserved wording is “frequent visitors”, since this is what is agreed upon in the hadith of Abû Hurayrah and the hadith of Hassân, as well as the narration of the majority of narrators of the hadith of Ibn `Abbâs.”

He then says: “The word zawwârât indicates that the curse is directed only at women who visit the graves excessively and no one else. Therfore, this hadith cannot be used to contradict the previously mentioned hadith that indicate it is encouraged for women to visit the graveyard, because this hadîth is specific and those hadith are general. Each hadith, therefore, must be applied to its own context.”

“He explains the reason why women should not visit the graves excessively: “This could lead them to fall into something that is contrary to Islamic teachings, like wailing, making a public display of themselves, taking the graves as places or relaxation and holiday, or wasting time in idle conversation. This is just like the situation that we see today in some Muslim countries. This is what is meant by the hadith.” [Refer to: al-Albânî, Ahkâm al-Janâ’iz wa Bada`uhâ (229-237)]